Breaking Up
Dara and I broke up yesterday. Alas it happened on IM.
I had been struggling with the fact that she was seeing someone else. She did not hide it -- those have been the ground rules of our relationship. All the same it was difficult for me; it shocked me how emotionally connected I was to her, but heck it has been almost a year. I realized that I had just 3 options.
1 - Learn to deal with it, and maintain the status quo, where we both have our "side deals"
2 - Commit myself to this relationship and become monogamous (with the exception of things we do together.)
3 - Realize that I cannot deal with her having a lover, and break up with her and continue with my free and single life.
I really tried to get myself to be OK with option 1 - learning to deal with it. I found it somewhat hypocritical of myself that I wanted her to me true to me, but I was fucking my way through a good number of the women in NYC.
There were only 2 things about it that concerned me...
1 - That it is someone I know, or someone she met through me.
2 - That she will form an emotional connection with this person.
I told her this and she avoided addressing the first one... I asked her directly and she said "I think you have met him, but I don't think you remember." I knew immediately who it was...a guy she had been chatting with at an office party that I had. They spent way too much time together. It was more than incensed because he is a good friend of 2 of my employees. Last thing I need is for my employees to be gossiping about my private life.
I had to do it, I had to break off all my contact with her. I hurts but like a cancer I need to cut it out. Here is what I told her "You are fucking with my work and I want nothing to do with you. Have a good life. Don't contact me ever"
For crying out loud there are about 8 million men in the NYC area, why does she have to fuck with my work?
I don't ever plan to see or talk to her again. I will heal, we all do. And I will go on with my life.
That happened at 5:45 last night... At 6:30 I met this stunning woman that I am seeing at Rare View ... georgous night, great company. We had fun. I got hammered.
This morning I stopped by an old girlfriends place and we had a little romp.
I think I will get Dara out of my system by fucking 100 women.
I had been struggling with the fact that she was seeing someone else. She did not hide it -- those have been the ground rules of our relationship. All the same it was difficult for me; it shocked me how emotionally connected I was to her, but heck it has been almost a year. I realized that I had just 3 options.
1 - Learn to deal with it, and maintain the status quo, where we both have our "side deals"
2 - Commit myself to this relationship and become monogamous (with the exception of things we do together.)
3 - Realize that I cannot deal with her having a lover, and break up with her and continue with my free and single life.
I really tried to get myself to be OK with option 1 - learning to deal with it. I found it somewhat hypocritical of myself that I wanted her to me true to me, but I was fucking my way through a good number of the women in NYC.
There were only 2 things about it that concerned me...
1 - That it is someone I know, or someone she met through me.
2 - That she will form an emotional connection with this person.
I told her this and she avoided addressing the first one... I asked her directly and she said "I think you have met him, but I don't think you remember." I knew immediately who it was...a guy she had been chatting with at an office party that I had. They spent way too much time together. It was more than incensed because he is a good friend of 2 of my employees. Last thing I need is for my employees to be gossiping about my private life.
I had to do it, I had to break off all my contact with her. I hurts but like a cancer I need to cut it out. Here is what I told her "You are fucking with my work and I want nothing to do with you. Have a good life. Don't contact me ever"
For crying out loud there are about 8 million men in the NYC area, why does she have to fuck with my work?
I don't ever plan to see or talk to her again. I will heal, we all do. And I will go on with my life.
That happened at 5:45 last night... At 6:30 I met this stunning woman that I am seeing at Rare View ... georgous night, great company. We had fun. I got hammered.
This morning I stopped by an old girlfriends place and we had a little romp.
I think I will get Dara out of my system by fucking 100 women.
posted by SagaciousDemon at 3:54 PM
